Start Here: Choosing the Right Parent Coordinator
This Isn’t Just Another Box to Check
If you're here, chances are you're facing a parenting situation that feels stuck, stressful, or tense—and someone suggested parent coordination as a solution. That might have been a judge, an attorney, a therapist, or even your co-parent.
Or maybe you found us because you know something has to change.
No matter how you got here, what matters now is finding the right support. Let’s walk through what parent coordination is (and isn’t), what makes a good match, and how we do things differently at Bridge Builders PC.
🧩 What Parent Coordination Is—and Isn’t
Parent coordination is a structured process that helps separated or divorced parents resolve conflicts and make parenting decisions more effectively—especially when communication has broken down.
It is:
- A safe, structured space to improve communication
- A way to make child-centered decisions without returning to court
- A short-term process with long-term impact
- Focused on creating consistency, not perfection
It is not:
- Therapy or counseling
- Legal advice or representation
- About “winning” or getting the coordinator to take sides
- A substitute for your parenting plan or court order
đź‘€ What to Look For in a Parent Coordinator
Every family is different—but there are a few universal things to look for in a good PC:
✅ Neutrality — They don’t play favorites or push agendas
✅ Structure — Clear ground rules, confidentiality, and boundaries
✅ Emotional Awareness — Able to calm reactivity and manage strong emotions
✅ Child-Focused — Keeps the spotlight on the child’s well-being
✅ Equal Discomfort — If one parent is thrilled and the other dreading it, something’s off
The best parent coordinator helps both parents feel uncomfortable in a fair, productive way. Growth isn’t always comfortable—but it should feel safe and balanced.
đź“ž Why the Fit Call Matters
We don’t believe in forcing this work. Parent coordination only works when both parties are willing—even if they’re not eager.
That’s why we begin with a Fit Call—a short, confidential conversation (with both parents present) to:
- Explain how our process works
- Hear what’s going on for each of you
- Make sure both parties feel respected and safe
- Determine if Bridge Builders PC is the right fit
We don’t move forward unless everyone agrees it’s a good match.
🧱 What Happens After the Fit Call
If we all agree to move forward, here’s what you can expect:
- A Shared Start
- We meet together from the beginning—because modeling transparency and accountability is foundational to the process.
- Clear Agreements & Ground Rules
- We’ll walk through how we work, what to expect, and how we’ll handle communication, scheduling, and decision-making discussions.
- Focused Coordination Sessions
- Sessions address real-time parenting issues—school, schedules, medical decisions, emotional concerns, transitions between homes, and more.
Tool-Building as We Go
You’ll learn concrete skills to help you de-escalate conflict, make clearer agreements, and eventually resolve issues without needing a third party.
🛠️ The Real Goal? Fire Us!
Most parent coordination is designed to manage conflict. Ours is designed to help you outgrow it.
At Bridge Builders PC, our mission is to give you the awareness, communication tools, and conflict de-escalation skills to no longer need us. That means:
- Understanding and managing your own emotional triggers
- Communicating more clearly and calmly
- Making shared decisions without third-party intervention
- Modeling emotional safety for your children
When that happens, our job is done. That’s not failure. That’s success.
These cases are perfectly simple and easy to distinguish. In a free hour, when our power of choice is untrammelled and when nothing prevents our being able to do what we like best, every pleasure is to be welcomed and every pain avoided.
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